What a busy week. We’ve all heard the saying “when it rains it pours.” It’s no different in dating. Dating has its droughts, but it also has its floods. This is one of those times when there is almost too much going on at one time to keep it all straight, and enjoy it. We’re looking in the face of five first dates in the last couple of weeks, not to mention follow-up dates with several of them. So let’s get to the updates.
GEORGIA: She had lots of potential. We started talking like a couple and had a great time together. I was just on the verge of turning off all of the other candidates because it looked like things were going to get exclusive. But after a great night out, which ended with her proposing watching a movie at her house, things changed. We cuddled on the couch watching the movie, with intermittent kissing sessions, until about 2am. There was no sex, and I didn’t broach the subject. She had some recent issues with men forcing themselves on her, so I was taking it real slow with her. I texted her when I got home and her response was that she was looking forward to spending a lot more time together.
Then things flipped 180 degrees. I hardly heard from her the next day and she ignored most of my messages. I wrote it off that she was busy spending time with her kids, but I was starting to get nervous. Then on Monday, the same thing, she ignored most of my messages and I hardly heard from her and when I would ask it everything was OK she would say everything was fine and I had nothing to worry about.
You can never fully trust that, because women will tell you everything is perfectly fine and you have nothing to worry about right up until the moment when they drop the big bomb on you.
I tried calling that night and she said she wasn’t able to talk because she had a lot of work to do that night, but that everything was OK. Then the next day, I decided to stop texting until she texted me first. Then oddly enough, I got advice – from a woman you will meet later (Justine) – saying I should just text her to say HI and see what’s up. So I did. That’s when the bomb dropped. She said she wanted to be honest and let me know she really wasn’t ready to be dating again yet, and that she felt sorry for leading me on. Sometimes, I really hate being right. My gut was telling me the whole time that she was getting scared. I just responded that I was sorry to hear that. So … moving on …
FIONA: Then the craziest thing happened. I heard from Fiona again. It had been a couple of weeks since I last heard from her when she told me she was going to focus on her new relationship with this cop she met. So out of the blue I get a message asking how I was doing. I said fine, but I was a little confused because I didn’t think I was going to hear from her again. She had the nerve to ask me “Why?” Why?? Because you said so, that’s why.
We talked briefly about her being happier than she has been in a long time with this guy and she wanted to still be friends. I was OK with it, though it sounded kind of odd because we had a good time together but didn’t thing we were that close otherwise she probably would have been focusing on me and not seeing other guys. And I already replayed the entire conversation to make sure I didn’t miss any hints that she was looking to see if I was still interested in her. Well, considering the fact I flat out asked her if she was still seeing this guy (perfect opportunity to say “no” and see my reaction), she responded that she was and was very happy. So if it was a gauge to try to get me back, it wasn’t a very good one. But then, just as fast as she came back into the scene, she was gone again and I haven’t heard from her since. Go figure.
IRENE: I’ve seen Irene a couple more times and things are trending to possibility of making a bonafide relationship. She even invited me over and made me dinner. The chemistry is good all around. We’ve even talked about going out again this weekend.
But the problem is Justine. We’ve been talking for a while now and have a crazy cool connection. Texting all day, talking all night – sometimes for up to 3 hours until 2am. There is definitely chemistry there. So we’ve been trying to find time to get together for a real date and want to spend time together this weekend.
The problem comes with what to do with Irene. You never truly really knows what is going to happen with two people who have great chemistry emailing and texting that meet for the first time. Many times there is no physical chemistry and it falls flat. So in the event that happens, I want to keep options open with Irene.
Thanks for reading and expect to see the post from time with Justine sometime by the end of the weekend. Thanks for reading.