Background: Lola is another one of my Match dates. She didn’t send me any messages or winks, but she liked a few of my photos. So I checked out her profile, liked what I read and saw, and decided I’d just send her a note thanking her for admiring my photos and just made some small talk. She responded, and we started talking from there.
She was ending her time on Match after only about 2 months because she was having to block too many guys, hide her profile too often and was even thinking of changing her phone number because of all the creeps she’d been meeting online. This has been a broken record lately, talking with girls who are fed up with sites like Match because the guys are too creepy, inappropriate or over-aggressive.
We’d been emailing back and forth for a few days until her paid account expired, then she gave me her personal email and things were going very well. I took a little extra time before offering up texting and calling each other because I didn’t want to seem like I was just like all the other guys she was talking to. Even though I got a sense that she didn’t think of me that way, I still didn’t want to push my luck.
But I did NOT want to play myself into the FriendZone. So I offered up my phone number and things took off from there. No hesitation on her part to text me, or call me, so things were looking pretty solid.
So after a couple of weeks of talking/chatting, I finally had a free night coming up and we set up a date. She’s a hairdresser and has a unique schedule where she has alternating weekends off, and has Mondays and Tuesdays off. She usually doesn’t have Fridays off, so she took a vacation day so we could go out Friday night.
A little about Lola: She’s tall (5’11”) – which is a weakness of mine, attractive, in her low-40s (just a bit older than me), never been married and doesn’t have any kids of her own. But she’s very much a family person, loves kids and is very involved with her nieces and nephews. I haven’t asked about the “no kids” thing yet because that is kind of a sensitive issue. Maybe she can’t for some reason and I don’t want to broach that subject too soon, especially since having kids is not any sort of priority for either of us (her profile listed that she didn’t want kids but it was ok if her partner had kids).
I kicked around some new and different ideas for our first date. I thought about taking her to a baseball game just to do something a little non-traditional, otherwise we’d just do the typical dinner and dancing idea (since she mentioned she likes to dress up and guys don’t take her anywhere which requires her to dress up). So I came up with a very non-traditional choice, but wouldn’t tell her what it was, trying to keep things interesting. I let her know what she should wear (casual clothes), but that’s really all I would let on.
The Date: Based on where we were going and our time constraints because I had to drop my son off at his friend’s house, she agreed to drive to me because it would take about 2 hours for me to drive out to get her and come all the way back. Thanks to rush-hour traffic, it took quite a bit longer for her to get to my house than originally planned, but it wasn’t a big deal.
I was so relieved when she finally got out of her car that she looked like her pictures and like she described herself. She was tall, slender and very cute. We were already leaving many of my previous dates in the dust at this point, and we’d barely said “Hello” yet.
We chatted as I drove to our initial date location, but I still didn’t tell her where we were going. As I turned down the street to our destination, I asked her if she had ever fired a gun before. She replied with much more excitement than I expected, “Is that where we’re going?” When I responded affirmatively, she was so excited.
At this point, I figured the rest of the night would go smooth, because I thought this was the “make or break” moment. Either she would hate the idea and the date would suck, or she would love it and the date would go great. Thank goodness it was the latter. I had also read in numerous places that taking a date to a gun range can really get the endorphins flowing.
It worked like a charm. I gave her some instructions on how to hold, aim and fire a handgun. Of course this meant plenty of opportunities to get close and touch her. That really seemed to break the ice so much faster. And we had to get real close to talk to each either, too, since it was so loud inside the range.
I could see the surge rushing through her after she fired off her first shot. I let her fire about 75% of the shots, since I’ve fired countless numbers of rounds in all of my years in the military. I would step in every once in a while to fire a few rounds when she needed a break because her hands and arms were getting tired. I helped with more instruction, gave her advice, and helped spot her shots so she knew where she was hitting the target. For a beginner, she was doing outstanding. She would generally hit the target within a 3-inch radius of where she was aiming and was keeping her shots in tight groups. That is something military and law enforcement practice hard at being able to achieve. She was a natural.
I expected to only be there about an hour, but almost 2 hours later, we decided to head to dinner even though she would’ve stayed longer to fire more since she was having so much fun. We even kept the targets so she could have them as souvenirs and take them home. I even took pictures and video of her so she could have them all to show her friends and family. She really appreciated that and couldn’t wait to show the girls at her salon.
The next stop was a live music spot in my part of town that I had been wanting to check out for a while. It is supposed to be a jazz/blues club, but also has bands that play some rock as well. It is also billed as one of the top local barbecue joints in the area.
We got there after 9 p.m. and found a nice spot up near the front. The place was almost at capacity but there were a few open tables. We ordered a few beers and the barbecue sample combo. The food was outstanding, but still took second place to Lola.
We had such good, easy conversation while we ate and listened to a local 3-piece blues/rock band. We had lots of laughs and never ran out of anything to talk about. I found ways to talk mainly about her and her career, and stuff like that. I am not much about talking about myself. Time flew by. We even managed to find ways to continue to casually touch each other – always a very good sign on a date. The next thing we realized, it was about 11:30 p.m.
As we were getting ready to leave, I apologized for making our first date so loud so we basically had to yell at each other all night just to have a conversation. She laughed it off and we decided to go somewhere much more quiet to talk for a little bit longer. So we headed to my place for another beer or two and talk.
At my place, we cracked open a couple of beers and talked for a little while longer. I had a been a fairly good boy to this point in the night, and decided I need to make my intentions known and made my move for the kiss. After that, everything was glorious. It was great. We made out for a little while – kept our clothes on the whole time (in case you were wondering) – and then sometime after 1 a.m. I suggested it would probably be a good idea if she went home before things got into some dangerous area.
I walked her to her car, gave her directions how to get back to the highway (since I had to walk her in to my place earlier), and we kissed a bit more. As always, I made sure she let me know when she got home. About 2 a.m. she texted me she was home and we exchanged a few more messages before going to bed. Things were looking very promising.
Post date: Like I said, things are looking very promising. We’ve been talking all day and have even planned another “date” for Monday afternoon, since she doesn’t work and I don’t have class. I want to make sure I see her again this week because next weekend I will be out of town for Labor Day weekend and won’t be able to see her for almost 2 weeks.
Now, I have to figure out what this means with the whole Krystal situation. She was constantly texting me last night during the date, but I was ignoring them because I think it’s rude to keep checking your phone on a date. I have to check to see who it is, in case it is an emergency or something with my son, but if it is someone else, I ignore it and don’t respond. And all that did was make it worse because I was ignoring her. Ugh.
Thanks for reading and stay tuned for more!