Recently, I told you all about Justine, the yoga instructor from New York that had so much potential but flipped out over my profile not being hidden and threatened to basically spy on me online. Well there is potentially another whole new layer to this story. But I need your help in keeping my head straight.
I’m going to try to keep this as succinct as possible. I swear!
If you remember, it was about 1 a.m. the night/morning things began to unravel with Justine because she went on to her Match account (which she had hidden) and noticed mine was still active (but not accessed in about a week) and proceeded to flip out on me. The argument/breakup lasted through most of the weekend. You can catch up on it all here.
Well, a part I left out of the original story was that just a matter of minutes (10-15 minutes) before I got the first salvo from Justine about everything, I received a notification that I had received a Match Wink from a new girl – so I don’t screw up my naming process, I can’t officially name her yet, so I’ll just call her Winky for now. I didn’t check it out, first because it was after midnight and I was almost asleep, and also because I had no intention of checking it out yet because things were very good with Justine and it was just a wink, it didn’t really mean anything.
But after things started getting crazy with Justine, I really started to get leery about that wink from Winky, and I really wondered if it was a trick to see (perpetrated by Justine) to see if I would check it out, even though I said I wouldn’t check my account. For the record, I didn’t look at it until a week after I broke things off with Justine. My thought was either she made the account to spy on me (and probably other guys) or she was using a friend’s account because I had helped her make an account on Match for another one of her friends.
I didn’t think much of it after things ended with Justine, but I couldn’t get the thought of it being a trick out of my head. So I started paying attention to both profiles. Both profiles are favorited on my account so I can easily see them together on the same screen. YES, I am admitting right here and now I was doing a little online dating stalking (a little). I wasn’t actually clicking on their profiles or messaging them or anything.
But one trend became very apparent. When one would be away for 3 or 5 days, the other would be gone for 3 or 5 days (always the same). When one was online, the other had just been active “within 1 hour” or came online shortly. This didn’t just happen once or twice, but numerous times. I’m talking over a period of about 2+ weeks now for sure, and a total of almost a month now.
The thing is, I had exchanged an email or two with Winky early on. Nothing deep or anything, and then she faded out and I did not hear from her again. But a little over a week ago, I heard from her again and she went straight into serious flirting and asking to get together sometime. I responded that it would be good to get together, but kept paying serious attention to the two profiles. And again, they seem to be online at about the same time. And when one was away for 3 days this past week, the other one was gone for 3 days and they both checked their profiles within about an hour of each other the other day.
I just got a message from Winky wanting to get together Wednesday afternoon for lunch. She has a very specific window that we can meet in this certain area of town so she can get to her appointments easily. I cannot accurately remember Justine’s yoga schedule but I do know she had classes in that same part of time with classes often bracketing lunch in this same way.
Aside from the obvious question of “What do you guys think?”, my main question I pose to you all is, “How do I find out for sure before showing up and getting duped into some trick, if it is all a setup?”
If it is all just a major coincidence, Winky seems like someone I would definitely like to date and see what happens. So I never want to blow it with someone with potential, so I don’t want to do something to blow it with her before even meeting her.
Maybe it’s just me, but my gut keeps telling me something just isn’t right here. And my gut is not wrong very often.
Thanks for stopping by! I hope you all had a good Labor Day weekend.