Hello everyone. I’m writing this tonight, even though my attention span is being pulled in lots of directions with homework, my son, and flipping between Monday Night Football and baseball games. But I wanted to get this knocked out while it was all fresh in my mind.
Background: Mona contacted me a while ago on Match, but I really didn’t pursue her until just recently. When she first contacted me, there were lots of other things going on: Justine just ended, things with Krystal just started, I started talking to Lola, and then there was the whole Winky thing.
Even though she was very attractive in her profile pictures, she had very little written in her profile so there wasn’t a lot to go on. But as things unfolded with the other ladies, she always managed to stay on the fringe. If you know anything about Match, there are several ways to indicate your interest without actually writing a message. I guess keeping her female pride in tact, she exhausted all of those options over the course of a few weeks without actually breaking down and messaging me.
So, finally, I dropped her a line to say “Hi”, and I must say it was one of more shorter, yet more clever introductory emails. I hate this part of online dating. The Dreaded First Contact Email, especially when Match makes you use a stupid Subject line. She mentioned being a single mom drowning in an ocean of Barbies. My message played off that, being a single parent with a boy with an army of action figures carpeting my house. That, and the fact that we are big baseball fans, was all it took to getting things rolling quickly.
She is 42 with a 21-year-old son who plays competitive amateur baseball, and she loves baseball and football. She also has two younger daughters, 4 & 6. She’s about 5’8″ with great brown eyes, naturally wavy brown hair, and a terrific, fit but not muscular, body (from what I could tell). I got a good initial hug, and there was no cause for any concern.
She gave me her phone number in her initial response because she isn’t sure how much longer she wants to hang around Match (a very very common sentiment these days). So we started texting and talking within hours of that and things have been rolling very nicely.
The Date: As you know, I’ve been a proponent of the “quickie date” recently after too many questionable experiences. Couple that with my crazy schedule, and spending time with Lola, I really don’t know when my next free “date night” will be. So I suggested a lunch date with Mona near her work. She thought that was a great idea and we met today at a restaurant near her office, which is about an hour from my house.
She showed up in a very lovely form-fitting white blouse with jeans that fit perfectly. She looked just like her pictures, but in person that feels so much better. Like I said, we exchanged a very nice hug and she seemed very excited for the date. She had seemed rather excited for it over the last few days, even while she was out of town celebrating her son’s 21st birthday. So things were off to a very good start.
For the hour we were together, we talked mostly about our kids. I felt like I had a constant smile on my face, and looked the same way. We were so focused on each other we nearly forgot to order lunch. The servers were very understanding and patient with us. We were showing each other pictures of our kids like a couple of grandparents showing off their grandkids, and she even moved over to my side of the booth and sat real close to me showing me videos of her son playing baseball.
As it was happening, her sitting that close to me seemed like a very big deal (a good sign), but then the pessimistic side of my brain started downplaying it like it was no big. What do you think? A good sign or not a big deal?
She even commented how impressed she was that I kept my phone in my pocket the whole time, except when we were sharing pictures, because some guys she had recently been out with had their phones out and were paying attention to them instead of paying attention to her.
Idiots!! Even if I had my phone on the table, I wouldn’t have touched it, because I was so into her. She’s so beautiful and engaging, any guy paying attention to anything else doesn’t deserve a girl like that.
The hour went by way too fast. She had to go because she had a client to meet with. We could have easily spent another hour there just talking. It was very easy and natural.
I walked her to her car and we just kept talking, both of still with smiles on our faces. We both agreed that we need to find a time very soon to get together again for a “real” date with more time together.
Post Date: Since the date actually took place this afternoon, I don’t have a lot of “post date” information for you. I texted her on my way home thanking her for the date and telling her what a good time I had and that I really wanted to get together again. She concurred and we talked about everything from looking like our profile pictures to watching the football and baseball games on TV tonight.
I know I’ve had a few good dates recently. But since January this has to clearly be the best. Yes, the date was good, but the conversations, the things we talk about, the things we have in common, etc., make it a lot more than just a good date. Plus she even fits what I have been looking for physically.
In regards to potential, she has the most of any of them so far (since Abigail). So much, that I would easily consider deleting all of my dating site profiles in a heartbeat if she asked. Of course that is something that won’t be addressed for a while yet, but I’m just sayin’.
However, my pessimistic side is creeping up again, leading me to think this is going to go more like Ellen. She seemed to be a complete packaged deal with lots of potential, but just faded away after the first date and nothing ever amounted from it. Call me overly pessimistic, but that’s the way it is sometimes.
Grade: A (could be a +, we’ll see)