Hi everyone, did you miss me?
Sorry it has been so long since my last post. You haven’t been missing anything, trust me. I’ve pretty much just been focusing on school, my son and my new english bulldog puppy. So having one new bitch in my life right now is enough (yes, my puppy is a female).
I’ve kept an eye on the dating sites, seeing if anything catches my eye, thrown out a few lines, but I haven’t caught anything worthwhile. And no, my cold doesn’t count. I haven’t been on any dates, and honestly have barely talked to girls enough to even get to the point of thinking about going on a date.
It’s nice not worrying about dating drama right now. However, we are approaching the DMZ – the time of year when I really don’t advise starting a new relationship. Since I don’t have a solid girlfriend, I don’t look to add any new women over the Holidays so I don’t have to be in that awkward gift-giving conundrum. It’s nice to have a date for New Year’s but only if it is casual because I also don’t like adding new women shortly before Valentine’s Day. Nothing is more awkward than having a brand new girlfriend at the end of January or beginning of February trying to figure out how to handle Valentine’s Day. There’s a reason I refer to it as VD, I try to avoid it like a disease.
But on to something newsworthy … Scanning the dating sites, I stumbled across someone on Match that looked semi-interesting. Nothing earth-shaking. There were no fireworks or rapid heart-rates from reading her profile. Her pictures looked good she seemed interesting (but there are a few things I skipped over, but i will get to them in a second).
About 30 minutes after I “liked” one of her photos on Match, I got a text from my ex-wife telling me that I was interested in someone she knew who was on Match. This girl that I just looked at and liked her picture, was the ex-girlfriend of my ex-wife’s ex-boyfriend who she was with before we got married. I can’t stand this guy. He caused so many headaches for my marriage early on I hate him without ever meeting him face-to-face.
She also informed me that this girl is still married but going through a divorce, and is the girl who takes in all sorts of cats, sometimes finding them homes and sometimes she keeps them. She found a new home for my wife’s old cat when we decided to get rid of her. I am NOT a cat person. Not even close. As she filled me in, I started remembering more about this girl.
Apparently, as soon as I liked her photo and she checked out my profile, she recognized me because she is friends with my ex-wife and remembers seeing pictures of me and thought it was me. So she contacted my ex-wife to tell her (or rub it in, as my ex puts it). I find it hard to believe that she was that petty to tell my ex-wife to rub it in like, “Look, another one of your ex’s is interested in me.” But then again, cattiness amongst women does not surprise me. Guys don’t do that stuff. Or at least mature guys don’t.
Needless to say I did not contact her, and she did not contact me after that. I have not viewed her profile and she has not viewed my profile again since that night. However, the next night, she was out on a date with a guy she met on Match (not me, obviously) and was giving a play-by-play on her Facebook. My ex was telling me about this.
First, when on a date, I would be livid if I found out the girl was posting a play-by-play on Facebook as the date was going on. After the date … fine, but not during. That’s just rude. Second, I had noticed on Match that she was also logged into her Match account while she was also on the date. So not only is she posting about the date during the date, she is still checking Match while on her date. Either the date was going horrible (but according to my ex, she was saying it was going well) or she’s just a piece of work. Again, after the date, you can do whatever you want, post whatever you want, I don’t care. But when we are out on a date, it is just courtesy to expect her to “in the date” focused on the date (and me) at least for the time we are together. Classy lady.
Dodged a bullet with that one. And sorry, even if everything else was cool about her, the minute I would have found out she was this other guy’s ex-girlfriend, it would have been over. I am not making a habit of picking up some other guy’s leftovers. It didn’t work the first time I did it, and I don’t need confirmation that the second time would end bad too. No thanks.
Well, it was great seeing you all again. I hope to be writing more soon. Finals are right around the corner, so I should have a lot more free time. And as always, updates will come as they develop.
Thanks for reading.