I’m not sure how many times I’ve mentioned this before, if at all – memories are all melding together, but this has been an issue I’ve been dealing with for quite a while.
My ex-wife seems to think I should let her stay here at my house when she comes into town to visit our son.
I used to let her at the beginning, after we first got divorced. It seemed to be easier for our son. I wasn’t seeing anyone seriously at the time, so I didn’t think much about it. But about the time Olive came along, it all changed.
It wasn’t just because of Olive, though that did play a big factor in it. A while before that, I was almost positive that she was going through my room looking through stuff. What she was looking to find, I have no clue. I don’t have any buried treasure, I don’t have any juicy secrets that I’m hiding, there isn’t any trace of a woman spending a lot of time here, and even if I did have a porn stash I have no idea why she’d be interested in finding that.
So the next time she was set to stay here, I set up a bit of a trap. I locked my bedroom door and set things up in odd ways around important areas I suspected she would rummage through. Then, I took pictures of it all to compare when I got home from work. I didn’t want to let her stay at my house alone, but I didn’t have a lot of choice and wasn’t going to be rude and say they had to leave while I was gone. When I got home, it was clear (even without the photographic evidence) that she had been rummaging through my stuff. When I confronted her about it, she said she only did it on purpose to get me riled up. She claims to not have really gone through anything, just messed stuff up to make it look like it.
Ya, right. Whatever.
Shortly after that, I said it wasn’t a good idea for her to stay here anymore. And after doing some more research, it was probably a better idea for her not to be here. It might confuse our son or give him false hope that we might someday get back together.
Now, she is coming into town this week for Mother’s Day weekend and to see our son’s first baseball game of the year. When asked about where they will be staying, she is very non-committal about whether she it staying at her dad’s house or her friend’s house. I know she would rather stay here, and she seems to be hinting around at wanting to stay here.
Honestly, I have been contemplating it. I’m not sure why. I am 100% certain nothing inappropriate will happen while she is here. I’m not tempted by that thought at all, whatsoever. I have not mentioned any of this to her.
What do you guys think?
Thanks for reading and I will see you again soon!